There’s no magic switch
I’ve realised recently that there’s really no substitute for time. It' doesn’t matter who you are, you can’t just hit a switch and change - you need time to change.
I’ve always thought that university was necessary, not because of the academic development, but because we all need the 3-4 years to learn people skills. For many of us, university is the first time you’re really ‘independent’ and learning how to interact with others (without killing people who don’t do dishes) is a skill that you can’t really learn without actually experiencing it.
The same is true when people first enter the work force. It’s like trying to read a book on swimming and trying to swim - you can have the right attitude and know exactly what needs to be done, but you have to actually do it properly in the real setting to really understand what it’s really like.
Often when we think about time now, it’s because we’re impatient and want things to happen right away. On the other side, maybe the time is necessary because we’re just not ready yet.