Weekly Updates - Today not Tomorrow

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Today is the day.

I don’t complain about the lack of time… what little I have will go far enough. Today - this day - will achieve what no tomorrow will fail to speak about. I will lay siege to the gods and shake up the world.” - Seneca, Medea, 423-425

Today, not tomorrow, is the day we can start to be good.

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(taken from The Daily Stoic - Ryan Holiday)

Weekly Updates - Being Honest

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When was the last time you gave an honest answer when a waiter asked ‘ How is everything tonight?’ Do you give a generic answer hoping they will go away sooner, or do you actually tell them the truth (whether it was good or bad)? It’s completely understandable to want to get back to your meal (uninterrupted), but why do they even ask in the first place?

The waiter? He probably asks because he’s supposed to ask - he was told to do so because it’s a sign of quality. The owner/chef - they actually want to know the answer - if there’s a way they can improve their restaurant, they definitely want to know.

Like everything else, there’s real intention behind actions - however, they’re often lost. If you want the honest answer in your real life, you need to start being honest as well (treat people the way you want to be treated).

Weekly Updates - Fake Enthusiasm

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All tech events are all the same - presentations are filled with presenters presenting in a way they think they’re supposed to present. WHY? OK it’s pretty obvious, but anyway…

The fake enthusiasm you see everywhere (presentations, restaurants, department stores) is overwhelming. Worst of all, it’s achieving the opposite effect of what it’s supposed to do.

What happened to being more human? What’s wrong with showing a little humility? Why not just express things the way a normal person would?

Act the way you would always act, not because you think you’re supposed to act a certain way. Being human should ALWAYS be encouraged.

Weekly Updates - You can't grow without time

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I’ve realised recently that there’s really no substitute for time. It' doesn’t matter who you are, you can’t just hit a switch and change - you need time to change.

I’ve always thought that university was necessary, not because of the academic development, but because we all need the 3-4 years to learn people skills. For many of us, university is the first time you’re really ‘independent’ and learning how to interact with others (without killing people who don’t do dishes) is a skill that you can’t really learn without actually experiencing it.

The same is true when people first enter the work force. It’s like trying to read a book on swimming and trying to swim - you can have the right attitude and know exactly what needs to be done, but you have to actually do it properly in the real setting to really understand what it’s really like.

Often when we thinking about time now, it’s because we’re impatient and want things to happen right away. On the other side, maybe the time is necessary because we’re just not ready yet.

Weekly Updates - Changing 'Sorry' to 'Thank You'

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What would happen if we stopped saying ‘sorry’? Not because we didn’t have empathy, but because we wanted to look at things from a different perspective. How might it change not just your behaviour, but the other person as well?

What if instead of saying ‘sorry for being late’, we said ‘thank you for waiting for me’? What if instead of saying ‘sorry I don’t think I can help with that’, we said ‘thank you for thinking so highly of my abilities’? What if instead of saying ‘sorry I can’t make it to dinner tomorrow, maybe next week?’ we said ‘thank you for thinking and including me, maybe next week?’?

The differences may seem small, but they just might make a big difference. Instead of being ‘defensive’, you become more empathetic. Instead of brushing things away, you’re forced to pause and think about the situation.

We don’t think you can entirely get away with never saying ‘sorry’ again, but it’s an exercise worth doing (even if just temporarily) - it will change your approach and might be helpful for the recipient as well.

Weekly Updates - Sameness is boring

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There are too many companies/people that are doing the same thing. It’s boring.

Copying other people is, well, lazy. And yes, if you copy things that have proven to work, the risk becomes very small - but that also means the the chance of you breaking out becomes very small as well.

You don’t get rewarded for doing the same thing over and over. You can’t expect massive returns if you never risk anything. So why do so many people do it?